Talking to your parents about death

Caitlin Doughty's video was talking to your parents about death. She claims that there is a seven step process/guide to talking to your parents about death.
            1. Go into "battle" so we confront the situation head on and right away
            2. Start early!!
            3. Be prepared for denial
            4. Have sympathy
            5. Show the facts relating as to why it is important to bring up this issue
            6. Know what questions to bring up in the conversation
            7. Treat yourself!!

          Some positives I see to her seven step process, is that it is good to start early and be prepared to do whatever your parents want with their body. This is good to honor their wishes and know they are happy with their dead body going through the process of their choice. Another positive I see is step five and six. It is important to know the facts and what questions to bring up. Your parents may wonder why you're talking about death, when they don't plan on dying tomorrow. Death can happen at any time and it's important to be informed of all the possibilities and facts in order to have a more simple and prepared funeral.
          Some objections I see to Doughty's seven step guide, is that by starting early and being prepared, it makes you think about death, which is scary to some who fear death. So while it may be a positive thing, it is also negative in the way it makes some feel. Some parents may not want to think about death, especially with their children because they just want to live their life. Although it may be important to talk to your children about what you want done with your body, it's not like the number one priority. People want to live their life in the present and not think to much about the future. It's saddening to think one gets old and what will happen later on.
           Altogether, Doughty's video was informative and I find more positives than negatives to it.  Talking about death may be hard, but it'll get better with time. Do it now to get it over with, so life in the future will be better for the whole family.

Comments

  1. Emma LMarch 28, 2019 at 5:12 PM

    I do agree that death is probably the last thing parents would want to talk about with their kids, and that the conversation topic wold definitely bring about some negative emotions. However, I feel like that is the reason why Doughty says that we should talk about it more. I also don't think that speaking about death should be something to "get over with." The more you talk about it, the more comfortable you become with the subject. Once you are comfortable with the subject, it won't seem like you need to "get it over with," it will just happen naturally.

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  2. Jose A. Ortega PabloMarch 29, 2019 at 7:14 AM

    Your comment was good and tackled the essential parts of the video, I do agree with the points you added about the concern the parents may have by talking about death when they don't "plan on dying tomorrow". Some parents may even consider it a omen of something to come, so it may be hard to discuss the said topic, you mentioned that in your conclusion but just try to elaborate on that said point as in why it could be hard. (Why can't we talk about death at the dinner table when the families there celebrating a birthday party) You know there are just some situations which can make the environment inadequate to discuss some things. Also in the conclusion you said "Do it now to get it over with" do it now as in today? or what do you mean by do it now. Do you believe there is a time period best suitable to tackle this conversation? Regardless you also built up your argument relating to this conversation being "Important" but in the end you say "get it over with" as if its a chore you have to do. Two very complex statements I believe can be said and formulated better so that your idea is flows.

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  3. Deborah Adekunle-OdeleyeMarch 30, 2019 at 2:37 PM

    I think that talking about something as grave as death should be discussed carefully instead of just ripping the bandage off carelessly. I think a good time to talk about death would be when a celebrity dies because it remind us that death is around the corner without being too personal. Also you can point to the fact that not having a will causes a lot of emotional strife after the person death.

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  4. Deborah Adekunle-OdeleyeMarch 30, 2019 at 2:51 PM

    I agree with Doughty point of view that we should come to terms about our imminent death and the consequences of it. I just personally think that what happens to my corpse is a non issue because I am not alive to witness it. I believe that funerals are not for the death but for the living an opinion which might change when I get older. Although I still think that you should put your house in order before you die; make a will, fix old grudges and live each day with a purpose. Due to the fact that you never know when your time on earth will be over the least you can do is to be prepared.

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  5. CurbeeMarch 31, 2019 at 1:05 PM

    I do agree with your statement on how there is more positives than negatives in her video. Talking about death with your parents, if it is yours or theirs or anyone significant to both, I do find to be extremely difficult, like you said. More difficult for the parents rather than us because perhaps they'll feel as if they don't want you to have that idea in mind, that they just want you to happy and worry-free. The point is really to get the conversation out there, just like Doughty said in the first video. Although the negatives are hard to overcome and get past, the positives she points out will seem to make the most differences when the time does come.

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