Significance of "The Talk"

When discussing death with a parent or family member, but more importantly with a parent. It is essential to have everything planned out with the questions you wish to ask and what you want to find out, it should be a informative session and not something to just "Get over with." although I do agree it is to be done, the time in which we tackle this conversation can be debated. Undoubtedly it will be hard but it is worth going through a tough discussion so we can assure our parents get what they wish and deserve, it could even bring closure within your family and strengthen your bond by keeping open and honest conversations and in the end entrusting each other with your final wishes. This may also remind you of what truly is important and allow you not to take things for granted because everything can change in a instant. I assume that when someone finds out they are going to die it is a terrifying experience and can lead them to fix every thing in their life and try to figure out what to do with what they will leave behind. Fear of death revolves around what they wont be able to accomplish, who they will leave behind and also not knowing of what is next to come, if we can at least remove some of their stress (fear) we can therefore calm them and comfort them about the situation they are in. If we conduct a conversation long before they come to the end of their life we may have already distressed them and taken off some fear of their shoulders by assuring them we will carry out their wishes. This talk about death can be a fundamental conversation which may even lead to a happier life and a peaceful end. the conversation may be scary but can be a essential step in someone's life.

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  1. Madison DunbarApril 17, 2019 at 8:52 AM

    I totally agree with your whole argument. I think that the time when we decide to talk about death is debated as well. No one wants to talk about it now, but it will eventually have to happen. I assume most people are afraid of what they leave behind too, so it may be best to get the talk over with now, so when death does happen, everyone's wishes are granted. Death is very scary and I'm sure when it's time, everyone will have talked to who they need to about what they want done because it's pretty important.

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  2. Hannah PilatApril 17, 2019 at 9:21 AM

    I agree with your statement that timing of the conversation matters. Asking many questions to your parents can overwhelm them. A safe way would be to ask questions periodically. The spread out questions can allow your parents to not heavily think about death (if they have any fears) and allows them to think more about their death. Also being able to let your parents know that it is okay to change their minds. Death is an inevitable thing and ideas can change. Reassuring them will aid to comfort and hopefully create a safe space to have the conversation.

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  3. Ethan HerringApril 17, 2019 at 2:16 PM

    With the death of this semester rapidly approaching, my academic life right now is mirroring, in terms of the brand of mistakes made, the end of someone's life who has not yet considered what will be done about their death. I did not plan ahead as well as I could have, and now I am paying the price. I do not want to spend my final hours deliberating upon life insurance and funerals; I want to embrace my loved ones and thank them for helping me to make it however far I do.

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