Caitlin Doughty Video 2

In the second video Doughty talks about how we can talk to our parents about death.  She starts off talking about how we have to believe that talking to our parents is the right thing to do and then she said once we believe we have to act and not wait.  If you wait until your parents are old or have gotten a terminal illness then it makes it a lot harder to talk about it and you will not accomplish much.  Next she says we cannot be afraid to talk to them about death and not to be afraid to be rejected.  If they do not want to talk then let them be and maybe try again a week or two later.  She gives a few other points like knowing what questions to ask them and having facts ready to present when you go to talk to them.  To me I think it all depends on the parents you have.  I'm sure there are some people that are afraid to talk about death but I also think that it might be a bit more complicated than Doughty makes it seem if they really are afraid of death.  I think that you will have to first make them not afraid of death anymore.  If they are afraid of death I do not see them waking up one morning and just randomly being ready to talk about it.  My parents just joke about their death and say things like "no need to spend any money on me, just grab a big cardboard box and write he tried hard on it."  I have a 99 year old great grandma who ever since she was about 92 whenever I visit her she says that she is going to pass any day now or that she won't be around to do something we had talked about.  That is her way of dealing with it I guess, to just be ready and accept that she could go to bed and not wake up the next morning.  I think Doughtys' points are very good but I think work in only a few situations and in general if the parents are afraid of death then you may have to find a way to change their mind or have to wait for quite some time. 

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  1. Deborah Adekunle-OdeleyeApril 14, 2019 at 10:31 PM

    I understand why will you think Daughty advice on death would not work on your family members because I know people are skirmish about death. I just think that you should not sell your family short because the more you expose people to a new idea the greater the chance they will reconsider their position.That does not mean grandma will change her mind anytime soon but other family members may be more responsive to your advice as longer you are respectful.

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  2. Macey BuchananApril 16, 2019 at 7:02 PM

    I agree with your statement that it all depends on person you are talking to about this. However, this conversation about their death and what the plan is needs to be talked about far beforehand. Despite the fact, that this conversation is a touchy topic and can be a little awkward, it can help remove stress from all the individuals in the conversation. I believe that Doughty was trying to give more so a guide as to how to talk to your parents or whoever rather than pushing the fact. Sine this topic can be hard to talk about she helps give tips on how to make it go by more smoothly.

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