It is Alright to Cry

Why do we cry? Is it because of a death in the family? Death of a friend? Or maybe there wasn't even a death, you could be going through a break-up, or your roommate eats some of your Oreos and all they have to justify that heinous crime is say "My bad". Regardless of your reason, most of the time we cry when we are grieving, we're in pain. One of the top things we grieve is because of death.
Death is chasing us all and at some point in all of our lives Death will prevail and it hits some closer than others. We all also deal with grieving differently. Some push people away and keep to themselves feeling that being alone is their best way to deal with the grief, we may cry in these times as well and others call out for help. There is no correct way to grieve but if anything it's alright to cry.
Crying is a way of release and from personal experience it is one of the best ways to release. There is a lot of death in my family. Funerals are practically family reunions at this point but not a single one of them I truly felt emotion towards. I don't know these people, I never cared to know these people but it wasn't until one day I got to thinking and finally snapped. I don't know my father's brother (my uncle) , I don't know my grandparents, and there are more cousins and aunts to put on the list but the fact that I won't get the chance to know any of them saddens me so that day I cried and during that moment more kept coming to my mind, heartbreak, bad memories, all just came to mind and I just kept going. Crying is something I rarely do, my emotion can be suppressed but not this time. Afterwards there was a moment of relief, my problems aren't solved but I am relived. That relief said to me that there's nothing wrong with crying. Why do we even suppress? What makes us refuse to give into our emotions?

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  1. Hanna GutalaJanuary 17, 2019 at 8:38 PM

    I agree with your claim that crying provides this sense of relief when you have emotions bottled up inside of you. I also agree with how crying has a negative image and how it is looked down upon for many to be seen shedding tears. People often think of crying as revealing weakness and because of this, it makes them uncomfortable to be emotional. We want to have this image of strength and maturity therefore, we worry that if we are seen crying, people will think less of us. Personally, I feel this very true and a good example of it is with men. Society says that men are not suppose to cry at all and if they do, it is alone and in private where no one can see or hear them. In addition, if they do cry publicly, they are seen as weak and childish. This taboo that men have to deal with can cause mental and physical damage because they don't express their emotions when they need to.
    In relation to death, crying is a significant part during grief. It is the normal way that people express their sorrows when experiencing dying/death with themselves or a loved one. Crying helps people release their emotions and also can help them accept the death and move forward with their life. Crying is a part of being human, and it shouldn't be looked at in such a bad light.

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  2. Madison DunbarJanuary 18, 2019 at 8:30 AM

    I agree that it is ok to cry. Crying relieves stress, but as you said, it doesn't solve the problem. Yes, death is sad, but it's not anything that can be stopped. Along with death, we cry for many other reasons. It still doesn't make what we are crying about any better. Most people cry out of weakness, but it's ok to be vulnerable. It's ok to put yourself out there for the world to see. Be vulnerable because after you've let it all out, it makes you a better and stronger person.
    Death is a sad time where most people cry because they are grieving. There is never a time where crying is considered a bad thing during grieving. It's also ok to cry for however long you would like. It may take a really long time, or your who life to get over the death of someone you love, so if you cry from time to time because you miss them, go ahead. Crying is totally a good thing. I agree with everything said above in the post, and I can't put it into more simple terms. Go ahead and cry in front of people, show them you have emotions because it's only part of being who we really are.

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