Death and Acceptance

All of us as people will experience loss many times in our lives.  Whether it is the death of a family member, a friend, or even someone we were never really close to.  All of us will grieve for these people in some way or another and all of us will find a way to keep on living, but these losses that we all will experience in our lives will shape the very fabric on which we view the world.
Coming to accept the death of a loved one or even someone you do not particularly hold dear is part of life and always has been.  The idea that is difficult to grapple with for many however is the notion that we have to move on and get on with our lives.  While accepting and coming to terms with the passing of those close to us is necessary, nobody really moves on.  Getting over grief is what helps people try and let go of their sadness, but truly accepting the passing of another is a growing experience that will have forever impacted your life.  You will not be sad forever and you will in a sense get over it, but you also will not view the world the same way, interact with people the same way, or think about everyday tasks the same way. 
Death and the idea of an ending impacts our judgement and view on life as well as offering us as individuals opportunities to grow as people.  Nobody is the same person they set out to be as a child because are life experiences are what shape each and everyone of us as people. Coming to accept the death of someone close to you is not so much about getting over it, but learning and growing from it as an individual.     

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  1. HarrisonJanuary 27, 2019 at 10:31 AM

    I feel like getting over the death of a loved one all depends on if they were young or how they died. If your child died at a young age for some reason then it would probably take a long time to get over that loss and some may never get over it like you said. If your grandma or grandpa dies of natural causes at an old age then maybe for a couple of months you will be sad and the family will mourn but I do not think people would sit around and grieve of that loss forever, say 2 years after it happened, they would not still be mourning. Most people would get over that loss and while you will not forget about them, you will no longer be mourning their death.

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  2. Mary DrobnyJanuary 28, 2019 at 10:52 AM

    While death has always been there, I wonder if the problem with death is that it's not natural. I wonder if, while we will "get used to it one day" a reason why it deeply disturbs us is because maybe it wasn't a natural occurrence?? It doesn't make sense to me. Why does death exist? It bothers us to lose but to lose forever seems so unnatural. I don't really know what I believe personally, but for it to be forever totally is disturbing! Regardless, I think this was an awesome post. Good thoughts and perspective on how to look at dealing with death.

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  3. Joshua MihalikFebruary 4, 2019 at 10:36 AM

    I agree with your take on grief completely; I think suffering is a huge part of life, and death is obviously part of the natural cycle of life. Death is unavoidable, so we just have to accept it like you suggest. But I think acceptance, in this instance, is caused by being mindful of the present and observing rather than letting your grief overcome you. From my view, the only way to miss someone enough when they die to the extent to which you grieve, is if you are attached to that person in some way. I think being attached to loved ones is okay, but when you become so attached to someone that you can't live without them, this causes more suffering when they pass away.

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