Reaction to Death and Grieving


Some may want to grieve. Some may not want to feel okay about the fact that their loved one had died. After all, if it is someone whom you loved deeply, getting over their death won't be easy. In fact, one may never get over a loved one's death, and that's okay. One may move on without accepting, just like accepting without moving on. It may just be something that they just wold have to live with, which is okay. We are taught to be emotional; to love and to care about things/people. Our hearts will ache and we may physically be in pain at times of sadness because of a loss, but that is okay. It means we have feelings. We should be feeling upset and angry because that is just a natural response a human would make.

A topic we just briefly touched on was the responses that we receive while our loved ones die. While one is accepting death, there are certain things we don't want to hear. A controversial phrase is "They're in a better place now". Many believe it depends on if you're religious or not. For those who are religious, it may bring someone who is grieving a sort of comfort. Comfort that their loved one is in a better place, somewhere better than the world we are in right now. Others may view it was something disrespectful and rude to say to someone who is grieving.


Again, some may want to grieve. Some may want to forget about it to avoid the pain. We all react to deaths in different ways. Sometimes, people will trigger us and tick us off with words such as ‘they’re in a better place now’ or ‘don’t be sad, it’ll be okay’. But, there is no wrong way to react, nor is there particularly a correct way to react about a death.

Comments

  1. SnowdenJanuary 26, 2019 at 3:00 PM

    I agree with the baseline of your argument that grief over the death of a loved one is something that everyone will go through and experience. Loss of people close to us is a fact of life that everyone has to accept and will handle differently. Yes people, will grieve and be sad for a time after the passing of someone close to them, but don't you think it is these life experiences and the ending of those close to us that shape us into the people we want to be? Sure there is no wrong way to react when someone we love dies, but I feel like it is how we react and how we take these losses around us that shape us into the people we become and want to be.

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  2. Hannah PilatJanuary 28, 2019 at 9:19 AM

    There is no correct or incorrect way to grieve the loss of a loved one. There is also, in my opinion, no correct or incorrect way to sympathize with someone. Yes there are phases that can upset the grieving but there should be a mutual agreement to be grateful for the sympathy. When someone is grieving it can be helpful to listen to what others have to say. Not saying that person has to agree with everything being said, but to understand that the one doing the talking is talking to help. Sympathy does not have to be given, but is a gift when it is.

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  3. Joshua MihalikFebruary 4, 2019 at 10:25 AM

    I agree with your stance on grieving to a certain extent: People should be able to express themselves freely and especially while grieving the loss of a loved one, and I also think that there is no incorrect or correct way to grieve; however, as we saw with the Ivan Illytch story, there are definitely inappropriate ways to act around the dead or around grieving people. And I think that sometimes people forget how they should act in these situations because it can be a hard thing to prepare for, someone dying. But from my view, if you tell someone that their loved one is in a better place, I think that that is a good gesture because it seems that that kind of statement is well-intended.

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